Each month, perhaps even weekly, articles are written discussing the ensuing backlash against women as a result of the #MeToo movement. Many of these articles – either because of the writer’s bias or inability to comprehend the matter – struggle to understand the exact nature and the reason the backlash exists.
Rather than presenting an exhaustive analysis of the complex topic, the purpose here is to examine the core of the issue. That which is often overlooked, even in the Manosphere and academia.
It is essential to understand that while some have indeed lost all faith in the female persuasion, that is not the bulk of individuals. Nor is the opposite end of the spectrum comprised of actual abusers the majority either. For the average person, the only thing on their mind is survival in the post #MeToo era, and that is what drives the backlash.
Women reading this have to understand that it doesn’t matter if it is only a small percentage of women who falsely accuse a man. Statistically speaking, it only takes one to end your career and, in some cases, your life. This will happen without proof, without trial, and often without even giving the man the right to defend themselves.
It’s not like a guy can predict where it is going to come from. For example, in 2018, Kenan Basic was a good-natured Australian man driving down the road when he noticed a woman having trouble with her vehicle. Over the next two hours, he helped her fix the car, getting it back on the road. After which, he followed her for a few miles to ensure she wouldn’t break down again, leaving her stranded again.
For his troubles, she accused him of sexually assaulting her. He spent two weeks in a maximum-security prison, lost his job, his wife left him taking their children with her, and then the police cleared the man. Only after CCT footage from a gas station that showed his version of the story was the true version. Until he was proven innocent, he was guilty and only cleared his name because fortunately, there was a camera at a gas station that recorded the entire encounter.
Caitlyn Gray, the woman who falsely accused him and ruined his life, was sentenced to live with her mother. That is, of course, as her case was being appealed. No further updates were provided on the case, so we are left unsure whether Mr. Basic’s lawsuit or Miss Gray’s appeal was successful.
Alan Dershowitz, a famous lawyer, found himself under a false accusation that nearly destroyed his life as well, not once, but twice. In his words:
“There’s no question. Before the #metoo movement, I had won. It had gone away. I had the submission, I had the tapes, the recording, the emails, I had a full investigation by the former head of the FBI who said it was false, I had a judge who struck it [down], the lawyers had withdrawn it…it was over! It was completely over. And then the #metoo movement came, and suddenly it was resurrected.”
In fact, people were telling him to fall on the sword for the movement.
“I had someone say to me at a public event ‘I know you’re innocent but why don’t you just fall on your sword in order to help the #metoo movement?’”
Ultimately he was able to prevail, but leaves us with these thoughts:
“Generally movements have pendulum swings, and the pendulum has now swung in the direction of ‘everyone’s guilty and don’t you dare assert your innocence.”
We could review thousands of significant cases and draw from hundreds of thousands of smaller occurrences of false allegations. Yes, there are over 320 million people in the United States. Over 7 Billion in the world, but all it will take is one allegation to destroy a man’s life.
If and when this happens, he will have no recourse or defense. Especially if this person takes their case to the court of public opinion rather than the law. He will be presumed guilty, his employer will be pressured to terminate him, and even if he keeps his job, he will be a pariah among his social circles. God help him if the case becomes famous, for he will be haunted by the accusation for the rest of life thanks to the headlines that will pop up whenever his name is searched.
From a pragmatic standpoint, it doesn’t matter if 99.99% of all women a man will interact with are ordinary decent people. All it takes is one to set this all in motion. All it takes is one person to overreact to a simple comment like calling someone “dear,” and they are brought before HR.
It doesn’t take much to spread this awareness, either. Every high profile termination over accusations on Twitter sends ripples through the workforce. Every male employee knows they can be next. They know they will be pressured to resign, and then their resignation will be proof of their guilt. Under such circumstances (see Ubisoft and Chris Avellone for reference), any man with an iota of intelligence is going to see what happened to those men and choose to avoid women.
When men have no recourse to defend themselves, they are going to do whatever they can that is within their capacity to avoid being next. Yes, that does mean you’re going to reach a point where companies segregate employees by gender or men are going to follow the Mike Pence rule. Not out of bitterness or spite, but because they don’t want to be next.